Male Victims of Abusive Relationships

Abusive Relationships Male Victims of Abuse

People in general do not consider men as victims of abuse; mental, emotional and physical abuse. Due to the shame factor in our society the average abused man does not seek help. These men experience many of the same horrific abuse attacks as women, designed to gain and maintain control over the man. It would be unforgivable to not acknowledge all of the abused men.

I personally have been witness to women who verbally battered their partner or spouse with incredibly degrading, humiliating words and did not so much as give it a second thought. I watched these men sink further down in shame and self-loathing as they apologized for things they had not done. In some heterosexual and homosexual relationships there are cases of physical relationship violence of the man as well as emotional abuse of men.

Many men believe that they cannot seek help while in an abusive relationship, this is not true. It is important that each man begin to take one step at a time to start to learn there is help to get out an abusive relationship. All of the information on this site about getting out of an abusive relationship applies to you. Whether in Morristown NJ or elsewhere, find a counselor in your area who knows abuse issues.

Having guidance and support from an experienced counselor through this process is very helpful. There is a lot of rebuilding of the self to be done.

To prepare to get out of an abusive relationship, follow the directions for packing a getaway bag, money, phone, important papers, etc. More detailed information is on the prior pages.

  • Call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline 800-799-SAFE (7233) to find out about your local resources, some of the shelters take both men and women

Verbal abuse is as serious as physical abuse; you need to get help to get strong enough to change the dynamics or to leave. It is a matter of survival. If you leave and don’t change you will repeat the pattern with the same type of partner of a different name. The goal is to stop the cycle of abuse and find the love and dignity you deserve.

It is your right as a human being to always be treated with respect and to be safe from unwanted or painful touch. Please reach out tell someone and get help. It can be a doctor, spiritual leader, therapist or trusted friend. Do it for your survival.

For confidential assistance, contact me today at (973)359.0662 or Email: info@bpaolo.com today.